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Great Article: Six Reasons Why Guys Like Porn

July 7, 2009

My friend Luke Gilkerson over at the Covenant Eyes.com Blog posted a great article a year ago called “Six Reasons Why Guys Like Porn (and how to break free)” http://www.covenanteyes.com/blog/2008/07/04/six-reasons-why-guys-like-porn/  

His thoughts come out of Proverbs 7 and he offers these reasons:

LURE #1:  The Forbidden
People are attracted to the forbidden.  It’s actually a marketing scheme.  We want to step past the boundaries.  We want to go where we are not supposed do.  We make a habit of skirting the boundaries and gradually stepping over them.

LURE #2:  The Physical Body
We like too look at the physical appearance of others.  Part of this is part of God’s design.  A desire to appreciate beauty.  But we’ve learned by experience and habit to desire, covet and go after the physical body.

LURE #3:  Passivity
We are not diligent and alert in life.   We seek out relief from life, and porn gives that to us.  “Real relationships require a man to be assertive…”, Luke says.  We don’t like that.  The easy way is to go straight for the easy thing. 

LURE #4:  COMFORT
Porn is medicine for the addict.  It’s a pain killer.  We justify it saying that it helps us relieve stress, relax, or get our our natural sexual urges.

LURE #5:  EGO-FULFILLMENT
We are in control when we are clicking, flipping, or engaging in fantasy.  We can make people do whatever we want.  Instead of serving our wife and other people, we make objects out of them and use them for our selfish desires.  The bonding we do with the computer images and with our fantasy falsely make us feel like “real” men or “real” women.

LURE #6:  Secrecy
There is an excitement that comes from doing things in secret.  Pornography thrives on secrecy and we end up taking more and more risks. 


BEGINNING TO FIND FREEDOM

These are powerful lures.  Porn will always have them.  They are seductive, and above our ability to resist.  If we’ve been involved in porn, they are impossible to step away from without God’s help and the help of others.

We need real relationships.  We need accountability and people we are sharing our story with. 

We need counselors, pastors, wise people who know how to help us with our core issues.

We need a greater love.  The love of God filling our hearts.  The love of our wife, our kids, good friends. 

“Six Reasons Why Guys Like Porn (and how to break free)”  (CLICK HERE TO READ THE FULL ARTICLE)

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