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How We Undervalue Sex

September 23, 2009



J.D. Greear, Senior Pastor of The Summit Church in Durham, NC recently preached a series on Proverbs.  He capped it off with two fantastic sermons on sex.

I wanted to share some highlights I think apply very well to our sexual struggles and desire for sexual purity. 



“Hebrew Delight”  Proverbs 30:18-20
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bible Proverbs 30:18-20 (New International Version)

18 “There are three things that are too amazing for me,
       four that I do not understand:

19 the way of an eagle in the sky,
       the way of a snake on a rock,
       the way of a ship on the high seas,
       and the way of a man with a maiden.

20This is the way of an adulteress:
       She eats and wipes her mouth
       and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’




 1.  By reducing it to simple physical pleasure

2.  Failing to see it as the completing, mysterious fusion of souls

We think sex is a natural response to a natural urge.  If you’re hungry… eat.  If you’re aroused…have sex.  If both people want to do it, then we think it’s harmless. 

For the adulteress (v.20), sex is a commodity.  Consume and gratify. 

We don’t see pre-marital sex, adultery, and prostitution in the deeper light.  We are just

Instead, God made sex to be an intimate intertwining of souls.  It is an act of serving one another and enjoying one another reserved for the marital union. 


3.  Failing to see it as a gift of God to be relished and celebrated (Prov. 5:15-19)

Proverbs 5:15-19 (New International Version)

15 Drink water from your own cistern,
       running water from your own well.

16 Should your springs overflow in the streets,
       your streams of water in the public squares?

17 Let them be yours alone,
       never to be shared with strangers.

18 May your fountain be blessed,
       and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.

19 A loving doe, a graceful deer—
       may her breasts satisfy you always,
       may you ever be captivated by her love.


Can you believe this passage is in the bible?  Drink from your own cistern… running water…springs…streams of water…fountain.  Not to mention “breasts”!

Enjoying our spouse and keeping sex within God’s boundaries of marriage. 


Some of us are single.  Some of us have crappy marriages.  We are all pulled to one degree or another to satisfying our sex drive outside of a marital relationship.  Don’t get caught up in the lie that masturbating, looking at porn, and having sex apart from marriage is OK or helpful.  It’s a lie. 

God can help us and our marriages through counselors, support groups, websites like this one, and through His presence. 

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I will share some of Pastor J.D.’s thoughts on “How We Overvalue Sex”. 



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