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How We Overvalue Sex

September 24, 2009


J.D. Greear, Senior Pastor of The Summit Church in Durham, NC recently preached a series on Proverbs.  He capped it off with two fantastic sermons on sex.

I wanted to share some highlights I think apply very well to our sexual struggles and desire for sexual purity. 


“Hebrew Delight”  Proverbs 30:18-20
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bible Proverbs 30:18-20 (New International Version)

18 “There are three things that are too amazing for me,
       four that I do not understand:

19 the way of an eagle in the sky,
       the way of a snake on a rock,
       the way of a ship on the high seas,
       and the way of a man with a maiden.

20This is the way of an adulteress:
       She eats and wipes her mouth
       and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’



We believe that good sex and physical beauty are indispensable to the good life… and so are to be obtained at all costs.

We think we’ve got to have it.   We don’t care what it’s attached to.  We crave physical beauty. 

Men – Dating the Perfect 10s, Leaving our spouse for a younger woman, pornography, one night stands, prostitutes, manipulating women

Women – Fantasy, surgeries, anorexia, bulimia, pornography, romantic movies & novels, dressing provocatively



1.  Realize that physical beauty is only a small component of real beauty and prize real beauty.

 The Bible focuses on this over and over. 

 Proverbs 31:30 “Charm is deceptive, and beauty if fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” 


2.  Understand that you are being driven by a craving for real beauty

 The Bible’s remedy is that we must be captured by a greater beauty, that of Jesus Christ, “the way of life” (6:23). 


 Proverbs 6:23-25 (New International Version)

23 For these commands are a lamp,
       this teaching is a light,
       and the corrections of discipline
       are the way to life,

24 keeping you from the immoral woman,
       from the smooth tongue of the wayward wife.

25 Do not lust in your heart after her beauty
       or let her captivate you with her eyes,


A wakeup call happens when you realize that the act of sex is only the beginning.  God’s type of sex is about you giving yourself to your spouse.  We give ourselves emotionally, physically, and even spiritually. 

It’s a mind blower to get around people who say that connecting with one’s spouse on an emotional level is even better than an orgasm.  Or when someone says that sex is even a way that a Christian couple can experience the love of God deeper.  Wow!  I’m only starting to scratch the surface! 

I still have far too much craving for physical beauty.  I want to have the deep love and beauty of God touch my soul.


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