Skip to content

Can I Masturbate and Be OK? – Part I

November 4, 2009

“Is masturbation OK?” is one of those big questions every young man, college-aged, or adult man asks at some point.  There is a lot of confusion about the subject.  Books have differing opinions on it.  Churches and pastors are very quiet on the subject (or very condemning).  The next three blogs are designed to help us think about masturbation and sexual purity.  

I’m not going to tell you what to do about masturbation, but throw out some thoughts.  Friday’s blog is more specific for those who want to stop masturbating.  I hope you’ll send me some feedback and your thoughts.

Wednesday:  “Can I Masturbate and Be OK?” – part 1; seven thoughts to consider

Thursday:  “Can I Masturbate and Be OK?”  – part 2; eight more thoughts to consider

Friday:  “How to Stop Masturbating”

 1.  THERE IS NO DIRECT COUNSEL IN THE BIBLE ABOUT IT –  There are not “masturbation verses” in the Bible.   There are plenty of principles about lust, living a spirit-filled life, holiness, and self-control that cover the lustful behaviors that masturbation promotes.  Just because it’s not in the Bible is not an excuse to do it, but keep reading. 


 2.  LUST IS DEFINITELY SINFUL–  Lust is inherently selfish.  It takes instead of gives.  It covets and perverts.  Masturbation behaviors are fueled by lust and increase our lustful desires. 


3.  GOD HAS CALLED US TO HOLINESS OF MIND, BODY AND SOUL – Most of us are spiritual and want to do what God wants us to do. 

Ephesians 5:3 says “but there must be no hint of sexual immorality among you”. 

I Thessalonians 5:23 ” May God himself, the God of peace, sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Masturbation causes us to hang out with sexual behaviors that very easily takes us into ungodly territory.



4.  GOD HAS PROVIDED NATURAL OUTLETS FOR OUR INTIMACY NEEDS –   Our desire to masturbate often comes from a lack of healthy relationships and healthy intimacy.  God wants us to build close relationships with Himself, our mentors, our spouse, and our friends. 

Marriage is a place where sex and sexual release are designed for.  It is in marriage that you can find selflessness, love, and sexual release with no guilt. 


5.  WE NEED TO LEARN TO SURRENDER OUR SEXUAL DESIRES TO GODSurrender means growth.  Surrender means we are learning discipline and self-control.   When we are powerless in an area like masturbation, God shows up.  Coming to our end is the place where God can help us the most.   Surrendering our mind, body, urges, needs and relationships.  Practice surrendering your needs and urges to Him everyday. 

6.  IF WE DON’T MASTURBATE… WE WILL NOT EXPLODE –  Sure it’s difficult sometimes.   But our body adjusts to lack of stimulation and orgasms.  We will not explode.  When we masturbate, our body adjusts up and expects more.  We have come to believe that sexual release is a necessity.  That’s a lie.  We don’t need sexual release to be healthy.  God can help us achieve fulfillment in relationships and in Him.  God can help us to be sexually pure. 

7.  WE WILL NOT “GO TO HELL” IF WE MASTURBATE – Contrary to what some churches (and parents) may teach, masturbation is not a mortal sin.  Our eternal state is not determined by our behaviors, but by Jesus’ work on the Cross. 

Guilt is normal when we sin against God.  If you are feeling guilty when you masturbate, it’s not because God rejects you.  It could be that you are sensing God’s desire for you to pursue sexual purity.  He has a better way for you through real relationships.

I hope you’ll check out Part 2 tomorrow where I share 7 more thoughts on masturbation and sexual purity.

I’m sure you’ve got some thoughts, so let me hear them! or leave a blog comment

Comments are closed.

%d bloggers like this: