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Getting Over The Need For a Sexual Fix

January 23, 2010

One of our readers who has emerged with some great comments is Jeff in Tennessee.  I wanted to highlight one of his recent blog comments.  I’ve adapted his thoughts for this blog. 


When a person is first called out on their sex addiction and exposed, their mind is a whirl of so many things.  You want to run, hide, and get away. Your spirit tells you to do the right thing face the truth, but your body only can think of the fix it needs to escape the pain.  And your mind is stuck in the middle playing referee.

The great news is You can survive with God’s help, and you’re not alone in your journey!  There are men and groups that want to help you get through this.  

My recovery has slowly gotten easier.  Over time I have been able to stop my [acting out].  This behavior was my stress reliever.  There were times when my whole body was on fire for a porn fix.  You have to learn from God and other men how to regain control. 

I had to be honest with myself and others.  I told others about my addiction so the lie wouldn’t continue.  Was it scary being so honest..YES, but what freedom it gave!  As I talked about it with other men, they started sharing their secrets and finding healing also. 

Product DetailsI’m Reading John Elderidge’s book “The Way of the Wild Heart” .  This book is teaching me a lot about my need for validation.  The truth is only God can heal that, I’m on a journey to go back and forgive those that have hurt me and those I have hurt

The other key was that I took the first step and found a group to help me.  I found men to share with.  There are many great ones you can attend.  Go find them. 

You need to put as much into your recovery as you did your addiction.

One Comment
  1. JeffTN62 permalink
    January 23, 2010 1:51 pm

    great article BEST yet!!! KIDDING OF COURSE.. I so appreciate finding you guys and sharing the journey. Your Bro in Christ… Jeff

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