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Why Did You Get into Sexual Addiction Recovery?

April 22, 2010

 

How serious are you about your recovery process?

Today and tomorrow we’re going to consider two questions:  

Q:  Why did you get into recovery?  

Q:  What makes you stay in recovery?  

  

Your answers to both of these questions are important to your story.  Your answers will also help you diagnose  how serious you are about recovery and how long you will stay focused on recovery.    

 CIRCUMSTANCES THAT BRING US INTO RECOVERY 
Some of us will answer the question by talking about our circumstances.  These relate to behaviors, consequences and relationships. 

  • You got caught in a Sexual behavior.
  • Your wife found out about a relationship.
  • Someone discovered your Internet history.
  • Someone told on you. 
  • You failed AGAIN!
  • Your relapsed. 
  • You got a girl pregnant.
  • Your wife left you.
  • You got arrested.
  • A friend told you to get some help.
  • A counselor suggested a group for you to go to.
  • Your pastor pointed you to a resource. 

  

EMOTIONS THAT BRING US INTO RECOVERY
There are also emotional reasons that we get into recovery.  These reasons go a lot deeper:  

  • Getting so sick of your behavior.
  • A deep desire to change.
  • Experiencing loss and failure.
  • Fear of more loss in our life.
  • Guilt and shame .
  • A terrible sense of sadness.
  • Feeling of brokenness.
  • You hated who you were and what you were become.
  • You feel despair and hopelessness.
  • You feel humiliated by what has happened. 

 

You Broke the Ice

   

THE HARDEST STEP – EVER!
Whatever combination of circumstances and emotions that brought you into recovery… good for you!  That’s awesome!  I’m not sure there’s a bad reason to get into recovery.  

At some point, you accepted the fact that you needed help and took that step.  Your step might have been: 

  • Sharing your secret
  • Going to a counselor
  • Going to a recovery group
  • Talking to a pastor
  • Getting some accountability

Whatever you did, you broke the ice and took the next step.  Breaking the ice into a new level of recovery is one of the hardest things, but you did it!
THE LARGER, MORE IMPORTANT QUESTION
But what is motivating you to stay in recovery?  That’s a bigger question.  Your motivations will determine how serious you are about recovery, and how long you will continue to stay focused.  

We’ll deal with this question on tomorrow’s blog.   

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