Top Tip For Recovery: Look For “Broken World” People


You can listen to a podcast on Broken World People on
Episode 068
of my podcast Top Tips For Sexual Purity. 

I’m thankful to Gordon McDonald who coins the term “broken world people” in his book Rebuilding Your Broken World.    Broken world people are the people who realize that they have junk in their lives and are powerless to overcome it on their own.  They are the people who have been broken and humbled.  They have come to the end of themselves and realized that they need help.

Broken world people are the people who understand exactly what you’re going through. 

And many broken world people have navigated through their junk, found victory, and come out much stronger. 

The Broken World Club is the best place to be.  In your quest for sexual purity, you need to find these “broken world” people and make them part of your support team.  Broken world people:

  1.  Understand what you’re going through – You need people who understand what you are going through.  They’ve been there.  Even if their struggle wasn’t for sexual purity, someone who has been broken will understand struggle.  Those are the type of people you need to connect with. 

    Broken world people know that all of us struggle.  We all have junk.  We all have hard times or deep woundings that are out of our control and overwhelm us.  The broken world people can identify with your junk as well as their own. 

     

  2. Know the deep depths of hurt – Broken world people have all been hurt deeply.  They have struggled.  They have come face-to-face with themselves, their hurts, their emotions, their wounds.  They know what it means to be broken.  They know what it means to lose things and to suffer consequences. 

  3. Know the deep depths of God’s love – Many broken world people who have found that God is near to the brokenhearted.  He comes close to the broken.  Broken world people have a deeper understanding of Gods love, mercy, goodness, help.  They have learned that He brings the deep healing and they can be an encouragement to you as you seek to connect with God and find healing. 

  4. Have seen the back side of the suffering –Broken world people can help us get perspective on our suffering.  In our sexual addiction recovery, we need to know that there is a tomorrow, there is hope, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. 

    We are so shallow in our understanding about life and suffering.  If you can get around broken world people, you will learn some valuable lessons from them that come from the depth of their suffering.  We chase after people who have had great success and victories.  Start chasing after people who have been through the depths of suffering and made it through. 

I talk a lot on the Porn to Purity website about the importance of finding safe people to talk to.  Safe people are the people who will listen to you, encourage you and support you on your recovery journey.  They may have gone through their own battle for sexual purity, or they may have had some other form of suffering. 

Broken world people will be some of the safest people for you to be around.  They will be your biggest supporters, your listening ears, and part of the wisdom that God wants to give you to help you navigate through your journey. 

So keep looking for the Broken World People.  In your churches, in your current friend list, through a support group.  They are out there.  Don’t give up until you find them.