Your World Fell Apart? Focus on These Things NOW!

My world is falling apart – Now  what?  When the bomb goes off in your life, things are hazy, you are in crisis, your world begins crumbling.  Maybe your spouse leaves you and takes the kids.  Maybe you lose your job.  Maybe your friends are distancing themselves from you.  Maybe even people at church are

Intimacy – Stop Being Self-Absorbed

 I was thinking this morning back to the times when my wife and I were struggling in our intimacy during our first 8-10 years of our marriage.  Our counselor yesterday was asking us about our intimacy during our first 6 months of marriage and then how things have been since then.  One thing I never

Saying Goodbye to Our Church Family

There was lot of discussion regarding what we should tell our church family about Jeff’s resignation.    Our denominational leaders didn’t want us to share anything about Jeff’s pornography addiction, preferring we request a leave of absence for “family issues” and then later report that we would not be coming back.  Others felt we should be

Rebuilding Trust: Marsha's Story

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Rebuilding Trust: Marsha’s Story

Even though I knew Jeff was committed to the recovery process, I was pretty sure he would fall again. We had been down this road before.  He had been in counseling, he had enjoyed periods of victory, but then he would slowly slide back into pornography.  Why would this time be any different? On top

A New Ministry

I loved my old ministry.  My husband and I were living in Buffalo, NY, involved in church planting.  It was exhilarating.  We were watching people come to know Jesus as their Lord and Savior.  Our church was growing and our congregation was greatly burdened for our community. Then in an instance, it was gone.  My

Understanding Pornograhy's Grip on My Husband

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Understanding Pornograhy’s Grip on My Husband

Married To a Sex Addict Not all men who like to view pornography are sex addicts.  But as I learned more about sexual addiction, I learned that Jeff demonstrated all the characteristics of an addict. He would turn to pornography when he felt lonely or unloved.  It made him feel, although only briefly, like someone

The Lord's Provision

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The Lord’s Provision

I’ve often said that finding out Jeff had been caught with pornography was both the worst thing and the best thing that every happened to us.  It was the worst thing, because our lives became turned upside down as we lost our ministry and left a community that we dearly loved.  But it was the