What Do You Do Your First 30 Days? (need your feedback)

  I’m working on my the next Top Tips For Sexual Purity podcasts (shows 72 & 73).  The topics are: Tips For Your First 30 days of Recovery – Episode 072 Tips For Your First Year of Recovery – Episode 073   I’d like your thoughts on these topics.  porntopurity@gmail.com  or Leave a comment on

Psalm 90:14-15 – A Challenging Prayer For Perspective

    I like to go to the book of Psalms a lot as I begin my bible reading.  I have found the book of Psalms especially helpful in sexual addiction recovery.  I came across Psalm 90 this morning.  I was especially moved by vv.14-15:      Psalm 90:14-15 (New International Version) 14 Satisfy us in

Why Spiritual People Envy Sexual People

Marsha and I are sharing insights from the Pure Life Ministries 2010 Conference we went to this past weekend.  Steve Gallagher, founder of Pure Life Ministries, had a wonderful session at the conference.  He shared a message from Ephesians 2:1-10.  I was struck by this passage and by some of his thoughts: “As for you,

How Bad Alone Time Feeds Addiction

Good recovery means having good relationships and good alone time. On yesterday’s blog I talked about “How Bad Relationships Feed Addiction”.   Relationships can help heal us or feed our addiction.    BAD ALONE TIME Beware of bad alone time!  Secrets hide in alone time.  We can control our environment in alone time.  We can act out sexually

14 Types of Denial in Addiction – part 2

  Yesterday, my friend @purifyinggrace shared with us seven of the 14 Types of Denial in Addiction.  Today he finishes the list.   14 Types of Denial in Addiction – Part 1 14 Types of Denial in Addiction – Part 2   8.  Blaming: This is when you shift blame and responsibility from yourself to another person, and

14 Types of Denial in Addiction – part 1

Today’s blog and tomorrow’s  come from a fellow blogger and friend at Purifying Grace. If you are into your recovery process, you feel like you’ve done step #1 of the 12-steps  “We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.” We think we’ve got that covered and we

Podcasts: 4 Recovery Pillars For Sex Addicts

One of my favorite things each week is putting together a podcast for you.  I continue to be amazed at the great things that God is teaching me and others about recovery.    Over the last 4 shows on the 104 Podcast:  Top Tips For Sexual Purity, I share what I think are Four Pillars of Sexual Addiction Recovery. 

Fire Drills From Wichita, Kansas

I had a comment from the creator of Victory is Possible .   It’s a new blog with simple short tips for sexual purity.  Several of the blogs he has written are called “Fire Drills”.  Here’s one a short one from April 3rd where he uses the acronym LOATH to help us who objectify others:   Look Only At

What Rock Music is Teaching Me About Sexual Addiction

A friend of mine in sexual addiction recovery mentioned the other day that it was “hard to think clearly with all the distortion” going on in his life.  I was intrigued by that statement.  DISTORTION IN ROCK MUSIC If you’re playing rock guitar, you don’t hook your guitar straight into the amplifier, you hook it

How to Move From Killer Relationships to Life-Giving Relationships

On a recent episode of the Pure Sex Radio Podcast called “Pressing Past Comfort”, the hosts were talking about different levels of relationships guys go through in their recovery.  They mentioned the importance of having healthy regular relationships with people who are not necessarily in recovery.   The sexual addict has to learn to move away